SOLITUDE

Loneliness is a situation or state of being we all have found ourselves most times. We can't continue to emphasize the fact that we all have been lonely or we don't get bored as a result of loneliness. Basically, that's part of what it entails.

Take for instance, the Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic has hit us in negative ways, causing us all to stay at home, hindering everyone from going out, thereby ensuring everyone maintain what we call "Social Distancing". When we eventually meet one on one, we are still cautious because even our best of friends are not trusted. However, it has helped us not to fall prey of this deadly virus (dey your dey, make I dey my dey) and loneliness indeed kept us safe.

Solitude can be classified in different contexts and can be interpreted based on a scenario a person finds him or herself. The act of being lonely is an expression of what or why someone is lonely. Looking at the family setting, a person's upbringing determines why one is lonely. So while growing up, he can only relate with them based on the perspective they made him see things. If it gets out of hand and the person has no friends or places to visit, then there lies a problem because such person also known as an 'introvert' (they don't associate or socialize) may be influenced negatively when they finally know the nook and cranny of the real world. 

Furthermore, when such people grow up and start going out, they find it difficult to communicate with the Outside World because everything looks strange to them. It's just like they are seeing the light of the day for the first time after being in darkness for a long time, (they have been caged in the cave). This can also be caused by parents who, right from birth wouldn't allow their children to make friends or let them go out to visit places or even send them on an errand. Knowingly or unknowningly, they are imposing danger on the lifestyle of the child.

It's disheartening because these set of individuals grow up and end up lagging behind in the real world. Everything becomes new to them, people, places,  basic things, creatures, new innovations, trends, everything and anything that will make them live a notable life, all robbed off from them in a twinkle of an eye because of "Over-Protection or Exposure". Worst-case scenario is when you tell him to go right he goes left, can't differ right from wrong, speak the truth he will definitely tell a lie, being at the wrong place at the wrong time and sometimes with the wrong person. 'You can now see that his life is not balanced'. Well, reverse is the case when they get dumbfounded in response to questions life brings to them in all spheres. 

Solitude is also a "Voluntary Action". A person may choose to be alone to avoid interference from anyone or being disturbed. He may probably be trying to sort out some personal stuffs or maybe he wants to focus on something, trying to achieve a goal. Some people just want to be alone, they don't like disturbance, if they want to read give them space, in fact they are allergic to noise, even as little as a drop of a pin distracts them. 

People cling to loneliness due to depression, a force not to be reckoned with. I observed of recent, that depression has caused many to be alone and it's causing serious chaos in our present day but the question is what is the cause of their depression? Some people are loners in this aspect because they are either fed up about a particular thing that troubles them, they don't have friends, losing a loved one, no admission, broken relationship or marriage, family issues, financial constraints and vice versa. 

Rather than profer a lasting solution to these problems, they go into voluntary isolation, deep thoughts rules over their negative mindset, allowing them to think of the unthinkable and leading to depression. If the person gives up, such person take his or her own life (Suicide), which is never an option in the first place. 

Only God has the right to take your life. You never knew you were coming to earth, but he brought you to the world through birth. Until his purpose for your existence is fulfilled, you have no right as human to take yourself out if it was never God's will.  What's your take on loneliness? Good or bad, helpful or not helpful, problem or a solution, advisable or not? But the ultimate question is how do we get rid of this, so it won't have a negative effect on our persona?

I believe there is a always a way out if you seek for it. Every individual has the right to want to be alone but it should be for a positive reason. You need to go out and be socially fit, be happy, meet people and be connected. If you feel sad about a particular thing you are not pleased with, talk to someone about it, address the issue. "A problem-shared is a problem-solved". Overcome your fears and be confident in yourself. Most importantly, your life is a gift, if it is precious, you need to speak life into your existence and come out of that confinement.

This space is left for my unsaid words to pave way to put in your take-home answers as to how it works best for you when you are in SOLITUDE.